In one of our meetings we discussed the subject “REMOVING THE MAKE -UP”. It was an inspiring time.

Hmmm, I know what you may be thinking now; what the hell is she saying about me removing my make ups? Isn’t it suppose to make me more beautiful and acceptable? Why then should you be advocating for the removal of ‘make ups’.

Well, wearing a makeup figuratively means when we try too hard to conceal our faults, weaknesses, and pains.

Truthfully, we all know we need each other. Secondly, we know that every single person on the planet has something to improve on or something to refrain from doing or learn to start doing.

The area of challenge might differ from person to person but that does not reduce the fact that we all have our own issues.

Guess what the bitter truth is? We need people around us who are bold and also love us enough to point out our errors to us which would consequently point us to the direction we should be headed in the first place, that’s if we are truly serious about becoming a better person. Sometimes these people can come in the form of mentors, teachers, friends or parents.

However, most times, the issue is not that we don’t have these people in our lives, but we fail to reach out to them for help. If this is the case, why then do we seriously cover our tracks from people who can help us become the best we ought to be. Why do we still like covering our nakedness in the bathroom even in the face of severe hurt and pain?

Well, it is human nature to always put our best feet forward. Sometimes too it feels too helpless to be vulnerable or admit that one needs help. But, this ought not to be so.

Inasmuch as we would all love to feel and be macho in all circumstances we should:

1. Realize that we ALL would need help at some point
2. If it’s not a habit, there is nothing wrong in seeking help
3. In the multitude of counsel, there is safety
4. A big issue for one person is a molehill to another person
5. Opening up to others helps reduce the weight of the issue
6. Gives you diverse opinions and views on the subject matter

However, you have to be careful who you also share some information with, some are trustworthy while others are not.

So, discernment is needed in opening up to people. But in all, try to seek help when you need it. You can never tell, a piece of advice can go a long way in settling that unpleasant issue

Let me know what you think in the comments below?


Nike Adekunle is the president of SWiM (Sisters, Wives and Mothers} Forum. At SWiM, Nike and her team equips men, women, married and singles with all the information and strategies needed to make relationships and marriage work. In collaboration with members of SWiM, She hosts REALationship Unfeigned (an initiative that promotes healthy relationships) and Roaring Lioness (a prayer focus group). Nike is a relationship coach, marriage counselor, blogger, writer and an author. She currently has four books to her credit. To get her books, visit

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