WHAT DO MEN THINK ABOUT SEX?

WHAT DO MEN THINK ABOUT SEX

This week we will discuss some insight into the inner workings of a man’s mind as regards sex that will be very useful in relating to men.

This understanding helps a lady comprehend why a guy professing undying love can suddenly change after the consummation of his lust or understand why a man will date a girl for so long, sleeping with her all along but go on to marry the one he has preserved. Both ways, something is wrong: desperate women throw themselves, weak men accept the offer.

The first thing to note is, men appreciate what is not readily available. Before marriage, your value as a woman is tied to how scarce you are perceived to be (especially in the supply of sex). This is why when girls ‘play hard to get’, guys want to chase even the more. Similarly, if the supply and availability of sex is scarce, it heightens the perceived reward and by extension, your worth.

Secondly, sex for men is sometimes transactional. This is not to say men do not fall in love. This explains why a man can pay for sex and patronize women of easy virtue – it was simply a transaction. Some demand sex in exchange for favors or simply threaten relationship termination if you’re unyielding, or ask you to prove your love with sex. From a man’s sexual perspective your sex organs are your most valuable assets and that is why he boasts of his “conquest” after sleeping with a woman.

Thirdly, men are highly compartmentalized. It means that they can have sex without any emotional attachment, for a woman it is almost impossible. Once a man has sex in excessive supply (especially if the parties involved are unmarried), it makes men detach. Which means any lady sleeping to build connections with a man is mistaken, in fact, it explains why the opposite has been your result.

Next, men are very logical beings. While most women are emotional, men usually process things by reasoning and logic. This also implies that after sex a man is most likely going to process the event rationally. This could lead him to re-access the whole relationship. It would not be uncommon for a man to start processing how easily he got his chance with you. Which naturally will lead him to think of how many more people would freely gain access into your ‘treasure house’ if he could get it cheaply.

Ladies need to understand that there is a need to “think like a man” in order to get the desired result you want in a relationship. Sexual over-accessibility most times works against you. It results in a desperate quest for love, acceptance, and appreciation. This is because while you are developing more connection through sex, the man is thinking of disconnecting for all the above reasons.

My advice to ladies is that let your value match up with your worth. You can be worth more than you are currently being priced and that’s as a result of your choices. In your dressing, don’t bare it all out there. Elegant hints increase your value better. That “looking forward to it” can lead a man into marriage. Make him anticipate sleeping with you after marriage. Make him look forward to honeymoon. Keep your man coming back for more. Keep him glued and keep him interested in you. The ball is in your court choose how you want to be valued.

 

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Nike Adekunle is the president of SWiM (Sisters, Wives and Mothers} Forum. At SWiM, Nike and her team equips men, women, married and singles with all the information and strategies needed to make relationships and marriage work. In collaboration with members of SWiM, She hosts REALationship Unfeigned (an initiative that promotes healthy relationships) and Roaring Lioness (a prayer focus group). Nike is a relationship coach, marriage counselor, blogger, writer and an author. She currently has four books to her credit. To get her books, visit swimconcepts.org/shop/

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